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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

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Previously, in the series on 4 Levels of Human Development, we’ve explored Part 1: Know Yourself and Part 2: Choose Yourself.

In Part 3 of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 3: “Create Yourself”

Olympic athletes hire coaches.  Professional teams hire coaches. Fortune 500 executives hire coaches.

Getting better in what I do in a day resonates and it just felt like time to raise my own bar as a Coach.  The study of neuroscience, consciousness and transformational change in service to coaching relationships is where much of my energy is currently being focused.  Aligning with a Coach and exploring this arena has been like an injection of purpose and energy all at once.  I have to say, completing my intake document setting the platform for our coaching relationship was a rather surreal experience.  To see it all in black and white as it were, kind of set me back on my keester, not to mention how honoring and humbling it was.  As we’ve been working through some initial exercises together, I’m having a re-embracing of the profound benefits that coaching during change can bring to us.

Hitting the reset button on self can be described as exhilarating, fun, energizing, courageous and downright terrifying all at once.  Crossing those places of familiarity and stepping forward into the unknown or perhaps just something different presents us with a kaleidoscope of emotions.   Growth always occurs out of our comfort zone and finding a way to strengthen your relationship with uncertainty will be your ally as you continue to traverse change.

Jeffrey Gaines has given us a fantastic song inspiring us to source the hero within ourselves while embracing one’s heavy lifting.  Have a listen to “Hero In Me”

Let’s discuss what it means to “Walk Your Talk”.

QBQ book coverSometimes we know exactly what needs to happen or what we need to do to create what we envision.  Other times, not so much. There are a myriad of books in this arena and one that I adore leaning on is “QBQ: The Question Behind the Question” by John Miller.  What is so perfect about QBQ is that it helps harness that enthusiasm and assist the reader in narrowing their focus while remaining curious to what they are creating.

Transforming from our current reality of what is and who we are to our next version of self and reality can at times be overwhelming.  Often times enthusiasm is very high at this level and the energy can sometimes show up as scattered and frenzied.  A few of the key opportunities of note at this level of development reside in the places of purpose, perseverance and passion.  Being intentional and accountable to self with what you want to create requires focus.  Some questions you may ask yourself or perhaps journal on might be….

  • How can I bring value?
  • What do I need to do be intentional?
  • Who am I being?

Stay tuned for Part 4 of The 4 Levels of Human Development: “Share Yourself”.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 2

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

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In the first post of the series on 4 Levels of Human Development we explored  Know Yourself.

In Part 2  of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 2:   “Choose Yourself”

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Don’t you just love this cartoon? I mean really, who doesn’t ever feel like this? Options and possibilities all vying for your attention or perhaps it’s all the busyness that you surround yourself with…. Shiny object syndrome to the max – oh the noise!!! If only someone could just tell you what to do and then you could just do that. Problem with this is that the motivation isn’t from the heart, it’s not intrinsic and the chances of you following it through are slim. Choices find us exploring level 2 on our journey of human development and transformation.

On Mother’s Day a few years ago, my daughter Taryn presented me with what has become a profound gift. It was a T-shirt that simply stated, “Live inspired” across the front. Over the years I’ve come to realize that this energy is twofold, be inspired and you’ll inspire others. This is Leadership with Influence!

Get curious and explore what this stage of development looks like for you. If your mind feels anything like the cartoon character’s mind, then you may choose to get some clarity by asking yourself some of the following questions:

  • What is the experience I want from life?
  • What do I want to achieve?
  • Who am I becoming?

Inspire yourself and create your masterpiece….

Inspiration and accountability are forever entwined. When these two states of being/achieving connect, leadership of high influence and the ability to focus on the needs, wants, desires and values of others results.  Who doesn’t want this for self and for everyone in their organization not to mention as part of a shift in cultural effectiveness? What’s underneath Inspiration and Accountability and how do we create the conditions where fostering this ripples through our organizational culture?

Let’s look at this in more depth from the perspective of neuroscience. Our brain is divided into 4 quadrants within the right and left hemispheres. For the purposes of this post, we’ll focus on the upper right and left quadrants.  The right brain is where we open up our thinking to what is possible and to the opportunities around us; Inspiration. The left brain organizes our thinking giving us the focus to implement the tasks necessary to reach our goals; Accountability.  Integration of these 2 hemispheres is what I like to call the sweet spot in neuroscience.  This is the zone often referred to as FLOW; when we are intentional to creating and living our masterpiece from a higher source of inspiration and accountability combined.Outstanding

John Miller’s “Outstanding; 47 Ways to Make Your Organization Exceptional” is a book that comes to mind as a group read when creating the inspirational conditions referenced above. “You will never live life beyond your wildest expectations until you first have some wild expectations.”

Stay tuned for The 4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3, “Create Yourself” where we’ll explore Accountability in more detail.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
919-809-6902
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 1

A Lifestyle-Leadership blog….

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Leadership Effectiveness begins with you! Assessing self and consciously choosing who you want to be in your business and personal relationships is foundational to personal mastery.  Great Leaders challenge themselves regularly, taking their own temperature on self awareness.  They listen, look in the mirror, get curious and course correct when needed.

Inspire yourself and be the inspiration and mirror for others around you to rise up and be their best selves every day.

In this first of four posts on the 4 Levels of Human Development, I’d like to highlight the 4 levels up front that we’ll be exploring together.

Share Yourself
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Create Yourself
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Choose Yourself
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Know Yourself

Let’s get started!

Level 1 – Know Yourself:

Knowing self and the connection to human spirit.  Our lifelong journey of self-development can find us circling back and reflecting on who we are being at various times in our lives.  Are you looking to be inspired or to inspire others?  Check in with yourself and be the change you want to see in the world.  As you learn, grow and change, some questions you might find yourself asking at this level might be…

  • Who am I?
  • What is my current reality?
  • What do I want?
  • Is there something missing?

A colleague recently asked me what the most influential book was that I read in 2012.  Being an avid reader I hesitated to quickly give an answer, as I wanted to give all books read a moment of reflection.  Such a simple question got me to thinking about WHY I’m choosing what I’m choosing.  After all, the most influential book over an entire year – I’d better have a compelling reason for my choice, right?  Well, as it happens, I do.

Gifts of Imperfection book coverTaking a true assessment of self and challenging self-limiting beliefs head on is not easy!  Every transformation begins with know yourself.   “Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown is a jewel in this arena.  Brene speaks to the heart of accepting ourselves for all of our perceived flaws as well as our places of greatness with a writing style that welcomes the reader to a journey of awareness, acceptance and self-love.

In this world acclaimed TedX video, Brene speaks to one of the most precious gifts to come from her research on Shame: Vulnerability.

The hierarchy of human development gives us a clear path to set intentions and mindfully explore what is needed here now.  While allowing yourself to be vulnerable as you stretch and strengthen your uncertainty muscle, the path for transformation begins.  Sometimes we just “let go” of what is not working in our lives and other times “letting it be” resonates.  Either way, getting out of a stuck place often begins with looking in the mirror of self-awareness and “Gifts of Imperfection” has proven time and again to be a wholehearted and resonant mirror for this exploration.

Stay tuned for The 4 Levels of Human Development – Part 2 where we’ll explore “Choose Yourself” in more detail.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
919-809-6902
Email me

Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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