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Just Go For It!

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

What gets you jazzed? Gets your internal fire going? Gets you so energized you just can’t not engage with the activity?

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Putting yourself out there and taking risks is a tricky one. Often times, we’re waiting for circumstances to be just right and in truth, most often they aren’t. Get present with yourself and really pay close attention to what you are choosing. Life has a way of mirroring back exactly what is needed; whether it’s the people around us, or the circumstances. Noticing what is and isn’t working for you can be a powerful perspective check-in.

A quote from Richard Bach that shows up frequently during a coaching conversation; “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’ll be yours”. Having the awareness that we can talk ourselves out of what we may want dearly can be a springboard to shifting our behaviors and/or attitudes towards an alternate outcome.

Steve Jobs said it best: “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

  • What brings a smile to your face?
  • What energizes and ignites your spirit?
  • Looking back on your peak moments in life – what was happening?
  • What is it time to stop doing? Start doing?

A couple of my favorite coaching isms that may help in the quandary of indecision are “control your controllables” and “know the difference between being attached to a goal and being committed to a goal”. Sometimes we have to recalibrate but we’ll never know if we don’t take that chance. As the Chinese proverb goes – Fall down 7 get up 8.

What if you took that leap of faith, stretched yourself and built on your resiliency muscle? What’s available to you from here?

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!
Gisele
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Finding Your Tribe

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

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Living the lifestyle of an Expat is not for everyone. If I had to choose just 1 thing that I learned thus far on the journey it would be the importance of finding your Tribe.

Of course, this holds true in life, wherever we are, however, it became a beacon after uprooting ourselves from everyone and everything we knew from Canada. I remember a time about 10 years ago when a group of us were sitting around a friend’s dining room table in Vancouver getting to know one another and one of us mused aloud how nice this was. Our conversation quickly became about friendships and what brought us all together. Curiously, although perhaps not so much, we were all looking to make some like-minded friends in the boating community. A Tribe was born and over the years, some new folks joined us, some of us moved away and some just moved on.

Abraham Maslow’s pyramid, pictured below, recognizes love/belonging at the center of one’s hierarchy of human needs. Finding our Tribes, both in the workplace and in our personal lives brings a sense of connection with one’s life.
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The Gallup engagement survey poses the statement “I have a best friend at work”. It’s a short survey, only 12 statements. A testament to the meaning of feeling connected, cared about, and in turn caring about someone in the workplace. It’s about being vulnerable and trusting that there is someone watching out for you, someone you can lean on and vice versa. When we have these connections in our work environments, we will tend to be more confident, take more risks and be more engaged. Imagine a whole team functioning at this level? Tribes in the workplace will provide the foundation for creativity and innovation and best of all will collaborate at a higher frequency forging new futures together.

  • Do you have a close friend at work that you trust?
  • Is your team a tribe or a group of co-workers?
  • Are you nurturing the relationships in your personal tribes?

Enjoying a cup of tea with a friend in the afternoon or meeting up with friends for some lively conversation and laughter. It’s not a matter of will we gather, but when and where. Our tribes will take on many variations over our lifetimes and one thing is for sure – we are better people when we have connection and belonging in our lives, both in our work and at home.

Carolyn Myss states it quite simply,
“We evolve at the rate of the tribe we’re plugged into”. 

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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Stepping Stones

A Lifestyle Leadership Blog…

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Stepping Stones; those moments in our lives that give us a placeholder by which to measure surrounding events. They forever change us and represent a variety of experiences.

With the dawning of social media, the option to share these events with our circle of VIP’s all at once has become a reality should we choose these forums. Recently I opted to add the second timeline post to my Facebook page positioning just such a placeholder. Facebook calls them “life events”. Our daughter and her husband gave life to our first grandchild, Ivy. This little bundle of joy has forever altered their paths highlighting a joyous life event that touches many lives in their circle.

While visiting in Vancouver after this blessed event, I had the opportunity to spend some time with my BFF between Ivy bonding visits. We got to talking one afternoon about this very subject and she referenced two of her recent life event placeholders. BBC; before breast cancer and ABC; after breast cancer. Heartbreaking and joyous life events forever altering perspectives and choices on her path as well as touching the lives of those close to her.

Stepping stones in life give us the opportunity to take a pause and notice the direction our path is taking us. My favorite all time coaching question, “What is here now?” comes to mind as we slow down and take that pause in time to get centered. Whether these life events happen directly to us or to those we are intimately connected to, they will often provide an opportunity for deep self reflection, interpersonal growth and lessons learned. Some questions you may ask yourself might be…

• Is it time for a course correction?
• Is there something not yet complete?
• Is it a moment in time to re-evaluate core beliefs?

The decisions we make during these life altering moments can forever shape a new path. So take the time – be present and choose from a place of centered love. We never know where the next stepping stone in life is going to take us, sometimes we can prepare for them and sometimes they just show up. Either way, how we respond will ultimately determine our experience of the current and future events surrounding these momentous placeholders.

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!

Gisele

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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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Lifestyle & Change – Expat Style

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

It is liberating and terrifying to leave familiar worlds to explore new ones.

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Adventure is a path. Real adventure – self-determined, self-motivated, often risky – forces you to have firsthand encounters with the world. The world the way it is, not the way you imagine it. Your body will collide with the earth and you will bear witness. In this way you will be compelled 
to grapple with the limitless kindness and bottomless cruelty of humankind – and perhaps 
realize that you yourself are capable of both. This will change you. Nothing will ever again be black-and-white.  –Mark Jenkins

Change…. whether chosen or chosen for you is not always an easy path.  When we lean into change and the often resulting discomfort, we are building new neuropathways.  The more we practice our new patterns the less awkward we feel.  It’s like going back to the gym after a hiatus and doing a set of dumbbell shoulder presses.  The movement is all herky jerky because the neural pathway isn’t deeply set.  We’ve been on a break after all and our brains were busy myelinating other pathways, as this one remained dormant and began to dissipate.  The more we practice the more we add an insulative coating of myelin that wraps around nerve fibers in our brains.  This increased myelin affects the signal strength, speed and accuracy of the electric signals traveling through these nerve fibers. This is why, over time and deep practice, the movement once again becomes fluid and smooth.

The following video accurately highlights the dedication to this fine artform of deep practice. Sit back and enjoy.  I guarantee – you’ll love it!

So, back to leaning into change expat style…

Upon first arriving in Bermuda, we learned that taking the written drivers theory exam was something that needed to happen very soon if driving on the island was to be in our future.  Add to this, driving on the left side of the road (different from Canada) and also sitting on the right side of the vehicle while driving (again a change) and we had a recipe for a lot of new neuropathways to be developed!  Practice, practice, practice and I’m happy to say I am now the proud holder of a Bermudian driver’s licence!  You know, it’s taken me about 6 months to truly feel comfortable driving here.  A testament to the myelination process for sure!!

Stepping outside our comfort zones and altering our lives in small and large ways is a reminder that we have not reached our full potential and that we are still capable of evolving to higher levels of consciousness.  Often times, amongst the chaotic change lie great opportunities for positive growth. The challenge is creating enough calm amidst the chaos to see a clear direction.

Have you ever felt STUCK?  Doing something creative and/or simply just going for a walk could be all that is needed to shift the energy. Science says you release compounds such as dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine when you raise your heart rate.  We all know the feeling of increased endorphins after we do something strenuous.  Those walks and the resulting elevated endorphins will assist in clearing the fog and from this clarity you’ll be better equipped to focus in on that something creative shifting your energy.

Remember being a kid and going to the doctor for a needle or procedure? Ever have a doctor or nurse tell you something wasn’t going to hurt only to be writhing in pain seconds later? The more you resist the change you need to make, the more it will hurt.

So do yourself a favor. Lean in and start laying down some new myelin.

Live inspired!

Gisele
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Creating a Vision Board for Success

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

When is the last time you created a vision board?  

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A Vision Board:  Integrating all of who you have been, are today and are creating for your current and future experience;  WOW – all that from a vision board?  Absolutely and so much more!! Embodying and manifesting your energy field are a couple of very powerful methods you can engage with to fully land in the space of what you want to create and in turn project.

Years ago when Mike and I started the conversation about living in a tropical place he loaded one of the standard images from his Microsoft desktop photos of a palm tree on a tropical beach to our shared laptop.  Little did we know how powerful this was going to be for both of us in manifesting what we were both wanting to create for ourselves.  It works subconsciously and synergistically with your whole vibrational energy field. You might be wondering what I mean when I refer to a vibrational energy field.  

Here’s my best description.  When you’re sad, people around you can feel your sadness same as if you’re really happy.  Have you ever walked into a room and just felt a vibe that you didn’t like and want to walk right out again?  That’s the energy field.  And one of my favorite analogies…. “I’m waiting for the right time to talk with my boss about a raise.”  That right time?  You got it – that would be the vibrational energy field that you feel as a quantifiable measurement in gauging that right time.

Check out Simon Sinek’s TEDx talk which highlighted his groundbreaking ideas and reasons for sourcing one’s “WHY” also referred to as Purpose.

Inspired leaders and/or organizations operate from the inside out.  I love this quote from Simon’s talk: “People don’t buy what you do, they buy WHY you do it!”  Think about this for a moment….  People want to do business with you because of what you believe. Connecting intrinsically and emotionally is the catalyst for gut and intuitive decisions. Every hear yourself say “It just feels right?” In Simon speak, this is the law of diffusion of innovation. Start with your WHY and envision your dream into reality.

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

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Previously, in the series on 4 Levels of Human Development, we’ve explored Part 1: Know Yourself and Part 2: Choose Yourself.

In Part 3 of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 3: “Create Yourself”

Olympic athletes hire coaches.  Professional teams hire coaches. Fortune 500 executives hire coaches.

Getting better in what I do in a day resonates and it just felt like time to raise my own bar as a Coach.  The study of neuroscience, consciousness and transformational change in service to coaching relationships is where much of my energy is currently being focused.  Aligning with a Coach and exploring this arena has been like an injection of purpose and energy all at once.  I have to say, completing my intake document setting the platform for our coaching relationship was a rather surreal experience.  To see it all in black and white as it were, kind of set me back on my keester, not to mention how honoring and humbling it was.  As we’ve been working through some initial exercises together, I’m having a re-embracing of the profound benefits that coaching during change can bring to us.

Hitting the reset button on self can be described as exhilarating, fun, energizing, courageous and downright terrifying all at once.  Crossing those places of familiarity and stepping forward into the unknown or perhaps just something different presents us with a kaleidoscope of emotions.   Growth always occurs out of our comfort zone and finding a way to strengthen your relationship with uncertainty will be your ally as you continue to traverse change.

Jeffrey Gaines has given us a fantastic song inspiring us to source the hero within ourselves while embracing one’s heavy lifting.  Have a listen to “Hero In Me”

Let’s discuss what it means to “Walk Your Talk”.

QBQ book coverSometimes we know exactly what needs to happen or what we need to do to create what we envision.  Other times, not so much. There are a myriad of books in this arena and one that I adore leaning on is “QBQ: The Question Behind the Question” by John Miller.  What is so perfect about QBQ is that it helps harness that enthusiasm and assist the reader in narrowing their focus while remaining curious to what they are creating.

Transforming from our current reality of what is and who we are to our next version of self and reality can at times be overwhelming.  Often times enthusiasm is very high at this level and the energy can sometimes show up as scattered and frenzied.  A few of the key opportunities of note at this level of development reside in the places of purpose, perseverance and passion.  Being intentional and accountable to self with what you want to create requires focus.  Some questions you may ask yourself or perhaps journal on might be….

  • How can I bring value?
  • What do I need to do be intentional?
  • Who am I being?

Stay tuned for Part 4 of The 4 Levels of Human Development: “Share Yourself”.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 2

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

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In the first post of the series on 4 Levels of Human Development we explored  Know Yourself.

In Part 2  of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 2:   “Choose Yourself”

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Don’t you just love this cartoon? I mean really, who doesn’t ever feel like this? Options and possibilities all vying for your attention or perhaps it’s all the busyness that you surround yourself with…. Shiny object syndrome to the max – oh the noise!!! If only someone could just tell you what to do and then you could just do that. Problem with this is that the motivation isn’t from the heart, it’s not intrinsic and the chances of you following it through are slim. Choices find us exploring level 2 on our journey of human development and transformation.

On Mother’s Day a few years ago, my daughter Taryn presented me with what has become a profound gift. It was a T-shirt that simply stated, “Live inspired” across the front. Over the years I’ve come to realize that this energy is twofold, be inspired and you’ll inspire others. This is Leadership with Influence!

Get curious and explore what this stage of development looks like for you. If your mind feels anything like the cartoon character’s mind, then you may choose to get some clarity by asking yourself some of the following questions:

  • What is the experience I want from life?
  • What do I want to achieve?
  • Who am I becoming?

Inspire yourself and create your masterpiece….

Inspiration and accountability are forever entwined. When these two states of being/achieving connect, leadership of high influence and the ability to focus on the needs, wants, desires and values of others results.  Who doesn’t want this for self and for everyone in their organization not to mention as part of a shift in cultural effectiveness? What’s underneath Inspiration and Accountability and how do we create the conditions where fostering this ripples through our organizational culture?

Let’s look at this in more depth from the perspective of neuroscience. Our brain is divided into 4 quadrants within the right and left hemispheres. For the purposes of this post, we’ll focus on the upper right and left quadrants.  The right brain is where we open up our thinking to what is possible and to the opportunities around us; Inspiration. The left brain organizes our thinking giving us the focus to implement the tasks necessary to reach our goals; Accountability.  Integration of these 2 hemispheres is what I like to call the sweet spot in neuroscience.  This is the zone often referred to as FLOW; when we are intentional to creating and living our masterpiece from a higher source of inspiration and accountability combined.Outstanding

John Miller’s “Outstanding; 47 Ways to Make Your Organization Exceptional” is a book that comes to mind as a group read when creating the inspirational conditions referenced above. “You will never live life beyond your wildest expectations until you first have some wild expectations.”

Stay tuned for The 4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3, “Create Yourself” where we’ll explore Accountability in more detail.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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