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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

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Previously, in the series on 4 Levels of Human Development, we’ve explored Part 1: Know Yourself and Part 2: Choose Yourself.

In Part 3 of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 3: “Create Yourself”

Olympic athletes hire coaches.  Professional teams hire coaches. Fortune 500 executives hire coaches.

Getting better in what I do in a day resonates and it just felt like time to raise my own bar as a Coach.  The study of neuroscience, consciousness and transformational change in service to coaching relationships is where much of my energy is currently being focused.  Aligning with a Coach and exploring this arena has been like an injection of purpose and energy all at once.  I have to say, completing my intake document setting the platform for our coaching relationship was a rather surreal experience.  To see it all in black and white as it were, kind of set me back on my keester, not to mention how honoring and humbling it was.  As we’ve been working through some initial exercises together, I’m having a re-embracing of the profound benefits that coaching during change can bring to us.

Hitting the reset button on self can be described as exhilarating, fun, energizing, courageous and downright terrifying all at once.  Crossing those places of familiarity and stepping forward into the unknown or perhaps just something different presents us with a kaleidoscope of emotions.   Growth always occurs out of our comfort zone and finding a way to strengthen your relationship with uncertainty will be your ally as you continue to traverse change.

Jeffrey Gaines has given us a fantastic song inspiring us to source the hero within ourselves while embracing one’s heavy lifting.  Have a listen to “Hero In Me”

Let’s discuss what it means to “Walk Your Talk”.

QBQ book coverSometimes we know exactly what needs to happen or what we need to do to create what we envision.  Other times, not so much. There are a myriad of books in this arena and one that I adore leaning on is “QBQ: The Question Behind the Question” by John Miller.  What is so perfect about QBQ is that it helps harness that enthusiasm and assist the reader in narrowing their focus while remaining curious to what they are creating.

Transforming from our current reality of what is and who we are to our next version of self and reality can at times be overwhelming.  Often times enthusiasm is very high at this level and the energy can sometimes show up as scattered and frenzied.  A few of the key opportunities of note at this level of development reside in the places of purpose, perseverance and passion.  Being intentional and accountable to self with what you want to create requires focus.  Some questions you may ask yourself or perhaps journal on might be….

  • How can I bring value?
  • What do I need to do be intentional?
  • Who am I being?

Stay tuned for Part 4 of The 4 Levels of Human Development: “Share Yourself”.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion



Fear of the Unknown…

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored…


While dressing the other day I had the fright of my life.  Truly, it’s quite funny but at the time, I swear it took my heart rate ten minutes to slow down!! Something as simple as putting a top over my head brought about the most curious circumstances definitely worthy of exploring in more depth.

Some of you may have a sense of what happened and for those of you still wondering a cockroach landed on my head and traversed its way down to the floor.  I went into what can only be described as a crazy dance of hysterics and very loud squeals of terror only to realize the best part of this story – it was a dead one….

Really?  A harmless bug elicited this lively response and behavior?  After spending a good amount of time pondering this event, I’m left querying how fear of the unknown can be oh so powerful in all aspects of our lives.

You may ask yourself….

  • Am I choosing to embrace and live a life of health and well being?
  • Am I aligned with what and how I choose to spend my days at work?
  • Are there any relationships in my life causing unnecessary drama?

What’s holding you back from aligning with your best self?  Fear of the unknown is real and powerful.  Choosing to notice it and then using this knowledge as a catalyst to catapult you to the next level of your leadership – priceless!

What’s next for you?


Purpose – Perseverance – Passion