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Designing your “what’s next” magical experience in 2013….

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored

Happy New Year Everyone!

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau

I just love this quote!!!

Two years ago at this time, Mike and I were in the midst of making a life altering decision. Do we stay in Vancouver, B.C. and continue to live the life we have known or do we liquidate and uproot ourselves embracing a whole new culture and lifestyle that we know nothing about? We chose the latter and are embracing the incredible tropical paradise of Bermuda, as home. We learned very quickly that it’s not all sunshine, clear aqua water and palm trees. Life happens with or without those little umbrellas in our drinks. 😉

I’ve come to believe that everything in life has its compromises. Along with the obvious benefits of living and working in the tropics, our new lifestyle has posed a certain amount of discomfort and adversity for both of us to traverse individually and together. Noticing that it’s often in these darker places when we find ourselves sourcing courage and taking risks, challenging self limiting beliefs, failing, being resilient, succeeding and resetting our paths to name a few of the mini journeys.  The Integration Process is re-visited regularly and checking in with Perspectives continue to be a gift.

A new year is upon us presenting an opportunity for a fresh start. Hopes and dreams, goals and objectives, expectations and accountabilities; call it what you want, for me, it presents an endless kaleidoscope of possibilities to create and design a resonant life in full color. Nigel Marsh’s TEDx video “How to make work life balance work” is a great place for getting curious and maybe a bit uncomfortable while setting some intentions for your next magical experience. Check it out here:

“If you don’t design your life, someone else will do it for you.” — Nigel Marsh

December has been an introspective month for many of the clients and coachees I’m aligned with. As we reflected on experiences from the past year, we held a space for exploration. Owning ones journey and lessons learned speaks to being a leader in ones life; it’s where humility lives and in turn raises your level of consciousness as a leader.  Use this energy and time of year as your personal launchpad to design your magical experience of “what’s next.”

Great Leaders Grow Designing your life sound a bit overwhelming? Perhaps starting with the 3 questions posed by Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller in their book “Great Leaders GROW; Becoming a Leader for Life” may resonate:
         –  What will you keep doing?
         –  What will you stop doing?
         –  What will you start doing?

My greatest wish is that we all consciously choose to set the boundaries by which we view success and design and create our personal visions of what a life well lived looks like.

For a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you. I would love to hear from you.

Peace….

Gisele
919-809-6902
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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The Power of Our Patterns….

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored

Why do we do what we do?

Ever hear yourself lament, “I did it again.  When will I learn?” What compels us to repeat the same patterns which can be the cause of emotional pain, heartache even poor health…. repeatedly over our lifetimes?

Some may think that living in the tropics, all your problems and frustrations vanish on the ocean breeze.  True, the environment does help with perspective and attitude, however, issues, habits and roadblocks are still part of the picture, just with a different frame.  Our habits and patterns follow us wherever we go.

Charles Duhigg shares with us in “The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business”  that there are 3 components to understanding our habits:

1)   The Cue
2)   The Routine
3)   The Reward

Check out this video by Duhigg as he explores the 3 components.

For many years, my colleagues and I have been studying “Why” we do what we do. Fueling one’s soul in a day brings energy, light, fulfillment and joy, right?  But what happens if when following our bliss, we fall into a cyclical pattern that causes us to become off center?  Suddenly the joy is turning to frustration and downward we go.

It is at this point where one can take a pause, slowing down to notice (and reflect on) habits and patterns. This is a great way to use axiology in real time. Let’s break down the 3 components of our habits; the cue is our thought (systemic), the routine is what we do (extrinsic) and the reward is our why, our greater purpose (intrinsic).

You may ask yourself….

  • Am I experiencing states of disconnect or frustration?
  • Is there anything in my life causing me to push myself off center?
  • Can I envision a repeated pattern emerging?

Breaking down a habit/pattern and looking at it with a subjective viewpoint can help us gain clarity, self- awareness and perhaps even acceptance for whatever we are experiencing in life.  Know what your cue is, explore your routines and check in with what your reward is.  Give it a try and see what comes up for you.  You never know what barrier you may break through….

What is needed here now?

Gisele
919-809-6902

Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

We’re home…

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored…

We’re home….

These two little words invoke a feeling that can’t be described with words alone; it’s transcendent. A feeling that you can’t explain but you just know that – it just is….

A year and a half post arriving in Bermuda, Mike and I took a trip back to our roots in Vancouver, B.C.  for a visit with family and friends. Little did we know how this trip would present a life altering perspective shift for both of us.

Hugs, laughter, tears – oh they were a plenty!  Conversations flowed with such ease holding testament to our deeply intrinsic bonds.  Something started to settle deep inside but we didn’t know what that was.

Time to catch the redeye back to Bermuda.  Life finally had a moment to slow down.  A sense of peace, a calm if you will is what was settling in for both of us.  Upon opening the front door to our furnished rental, it hit us both for the first time – we’re home….

Perspective shifts can be life changing.

You may ask yourself…

  • Am I aligned with my values?
  • Am I consciously choosing the life I want to live?
  • Is my current reality fulfilling?

Is it time to change your life movie?  Perspective shifts are real and powerful. Choosing to notice and then using this knowledge as a catalyst to hit that reset button to catapult you to the next level of your leadership – priceless!

What’s next for you?

Gisele
919-809-6902

Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion