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Greetings friends,

renewal-1Back in September 2012, I began posting the lifestyle leadership blog.  This creative outlet proved to be a very rewarding exploration opening many doors for which I will be eternally grateful.  Today, it is with great pleasure that I share with you that what began as a blog, has now morphed into a Lifestyle and Leadership Consulting business with monthly News Updates being featured.

“Every new beginning is some other beginning’s end”

That’s a quote originally from the Roman philosopher Seneca the Younger who said it in the 1st century AD!  Most recently I heard it on the weekend from the song, Closing Time by “Semisonic”.  Just love how it so simply and perfectly frames change and the cycles in life that we all experience.

This will be the final post from lifestyleleadershipblog.   It would be an honor if you chose to check us out at www.lifestyle-leadership.com and continue to follow our monthly News updates.  As a thank you gift for following, our new e-book and introspective exercise, “Your Life Is Now” is offered as a free download.

Don’t miss the September post Cheers which further updates more changes being experienced thus far this year 🙂

If you’d like to connect for a chat and/or explore a more in depth conversation on how we could align further, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team.  I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!

Gisele
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Purpose – Possibilities – Persistence

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Just Go For It!

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

What gets you jazzed? Gets your internal fire going? Gets you so energized you just can’t not engage with the activity?

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Putting yourself out there and taking risks is a tricky one. Often times, we’re waiting for circumstances to be just right and in truth, most often they aren’t. Get present with yourself and really pay close attention to what you are choosing. Life has a way of mirroring back exactly what is needed; whether it’s the people around us, or the circumstances. Noticing what is and isn’t working for you can be a powerful perspective check-in.

A quote from Richard Bach that shows up frequently during a coaching conversation; “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’ll be yours”. Having the awareness that we can talk ourselves out of what we may want dearly can be a springboard to shifting our behaviors and/or attitudes towards an alternate outcome.

Steve Jobs said it best: “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

  • What brings a smile to your face?
  • What energizes and ignites your spirit?
  • Looking back on your peak moments in life – what was happening?
  • What is it time to stop doing? Start doing?

A couple of my favorite coaching isms that may help in the quandary of indecision are “control your controllables” and “know the difference between being attached to a goal and being committed to a goal”. Sometimes we have to recalibrate but we’ll never know if we don’t take that chance. As the Chinese proverb goes – Fall down 7 get up 8.

What if you took that leap of faith, stretched yourself and built on your resiliency muscle? What’s available to you from here?

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!
Gisele
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Persistence – Possibilities – Purpose

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Creating a Vision Board for Success

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

When is the last time you created a vision board?  

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Re-member Re-juvenate Re-calibrate Re-vision

A Vision Board:  Integrating all of who you have been, are today and are creating for your current and future experience;  WOW – all that from a vision board?  Absolutely and so much more!! Embodying and manifesting your energy field are a couple of very powerful methods you can engage with to fully land in the space of what you want to create and in turn project.

Years ago when Mike and I started the conversation about living in a tropical place he loaded one of the standard images from his Microsoft desktop photos of a palm tree on a tropical beach to our shared laptop.  Little did we know how powerful this was going to be for both of us in manifesting what we were both wanting to create for ourselves.  It works subconsciously and synergistically with your whole vibrational energy field. You might be wondering what I mean when I refer to a vibrational energy field.  

Here’s my best description.  When you’re sad, people around you can feel your sadness same as if you’re really happy.  Have you ever walked into a room and just felt a vibe that you didn’t like and want to walk right out again?  That’s the energy field.  And one of my favorite analogies…. “I’m waiting for the right time to talk with my boss about a raise.”  That right time?  You got it – that would be the vibrational energy field that you feel as a quantifiable measurement in gauging that right time.

Check out Simon Sinek’s TEDx talk which highlighted his groundbreaking ideas and reasons for sourcing one’s “WHY” also referred to as Purpose.

Inspired leaders and/or organizations operate from the inside out.  I love this quote from Simon’s talk: “People don’t buy what you do, they buy WHY you do it!”  Think about this for a moment….  People want to do business with you because of what you believe. Connecting intrinsically and emotionally is the catalyst for gut and intuitive decisions. Every hear yourself say “It just feels right?” In Simon speak, this is the law of diffusion of innovation. Start with your WHY and envision your dream into reality.

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

Live inspired!

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 4

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

church bay sunset 2 w wordsPreviously, in the series on 4 Levels of Human Development, we’ve explored Part 1: Know Yourself and Part 2: Choose Yourself and Part 3: Create Yourself.

In the final post in the series on The 4 Levels of Human Development we will focus on
Level 4:  Share Yourself”

What is the experience you want from life?

To share yourself openly, all parts of yourself in a transparent and vulnerable way is to be authentically you.  It takes courage to be “spiritually naked”.  Not just expressing the good parts, the healed and healthy parts.  It means to express all of your vulnerable, lost and lonely, curious, confused and even some of the parts we don’t like about ourselves.

To live behind a mask can be a lonely existence.  Take a pause for a moment and think about this.  If you’re not emotionally available to others, how can they be emotionally available to you? If you haven’t revealed how someone can be there for you, then how will anyone know what is really going on? The flip side of this is how will you know if there is something that you may contribute for someone?  Lost opportunities for connection, community and deepened relationships on both sides.

When we embrace our wholeness, others will also.  Trusting people who you are in community with and setting healthy boundaries is akin to feeling like being with a fellow traveler on life’s journey; a kindred spirit.  If we hoard ourselves – our gifts, our talents, our love, our thoughts, our feelings, our insights, our words – we are inhibiting our own experience of life. But if we give fully, with abandon and love, our energy field expands, intermingling with and raising the collective vibrational fields and consciousness of other souls.  Yes, I believe one person can make a difference.

Who you are being will determine the experience you receive.  Checking in with your energy can be a powerful exercise of choice as each day begins.  Some questions you may want to ask yourself might be:

  • Am I being authentic?
  • How do I want to be remembered?
  • Am I awake to choosing my experience?

To share yourself is to include others on your journey.

“Be the lighthouse for your vision, inspiring others to join.” —Deepak Chopra

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3

A Lifestyle Leadership blog….

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Previously, in the series on 4 Levels of Human Development, we’ve explored Part 1: Know Yourself and Part 2: Choose Yourself.

In Part 3 of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 3: “Create Yourself”

Olympic athletes hire coaches.  Professional teams hire coaches. Fortune 500 executives hire coaches.

Getting better in what I do in a day resonates and it just felt like time to raise my own bar as a Coach.  The study of neuroscience, consciousness and transformational change in service to coaching relationships is where much of my energy is currently being focused.  Aligning with a Coach and exploring this arena has been like an injection of purpose and energy all at once.  I have to say, completing my intake document setting the platform for our coaching relationship was a rather surreal experience.  To see it all in black and white as it were, kind of set me back on my keester, not to mention how honoring and humbling it was.  As we’ve been working through some initial exercises together, I’m having a re-embracing of the profound benefits that coaching during change can bring to us.

Hitting the reset button on self can be described as exhilarating, fun, energizing, courageous and downright terrifying all at once.  Crossing those places of familiarity and stepping forward into the unknown or perhaps just something different presents us with a kaleidoscope of emotions.   Growth always occurs out of our comfort zone and finding a way to strengthen your relationship with uncertainty will be your ally as you continue to traverse change.

Jeffrey Gaines has given us a fantastic song inspiring us to source the hero within ourselves while embracing one’s heavy lifting.  Have a listen to “Hero In Me”

Let’s discuss what it means to “Walk Your Talk”.

QBQ book coverSometimes we know exactly what needs to happen or what we need to do to create what we envision.  Other times, not so much. There are a myriad of books in this arena and one that I adore leaning on is “QBQ: The Question Behind the Question” by John Miller.  What is so perfect about QBQ is that it helps harness that enthusiasm and assist the reader in narrowing their focus while remaining curious to what they are creating.

Transforming from our current reality of what is and who we are to our next version of self and reality can at times be overwhelming.  Often times enthusiasm is very high at this level and the energy can sometimes show up as scattered and frenzied.  A few of the key opportunities of note at this level of development reside in the places of purpose, perseverance and passion.  Being intentional and accountable to self with what you want to create requires focus.  Some questions you may ask yourself or perhaps journal on might be….

  • How can I bring value?
  • What do I need to do be intentional?
  • Who am I being?

Stay tuned for Part 4 of The 4 Levels of Human Development: “Share Yourself”.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 2

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…

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In the first post of the series on 4 Levels of Human Development we explored  Know Yourself.

In Part 2  of the series, we’re going to explore
Level 2:   “Choose Yourself”

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Don’t you just love this cartoon? I mean really, who doesn’t ever feel like this? Options and possibilities all vying for your attention or perhaps it’s all the busyness that you surround yourself with…. Shiny object syndrome to the max – oh the noise!!! If only someone could just tell you what to do and then you could just do that. Problem with this is that the motivation isn’t from the heart, it’s not intrinsic and the chances of you following it through are slim. Choices find us exploring level 2 on our journey of human development and transformation.

On Mother’s Day a few years ago, my daughter Taryn presented me with what has become a profound gift. It was a T-shirt that simply stated, “Live inspired” across the front. Over the years I’ve come to realize that this energy is twofold, be inspired and you’ll inspire others. This is Leadership with Influence!

Get curious and explore what this stage of development looks like for you. If your mind feels anything like the cartoon character’s mind, then you may choose to get some clarity by asking yourself some of the following questions:

  • What is the experience I want from life?
  • What do I want to achieve?
  • Who am I becoming?

Inspire yourself and create your masterpiece….

Inspiration and accountability are forever entwined. When these two states of being/achieving connect, leadership of high influence and the ability to focus on the needs, wants, desires and values of others results.  Who doesn’t want this for self and for everyone in their organization not to mention as part of a shift in cultural effectiveness? What’s underneath Inspiration and Accountability and how do we create the conditions where fostering this ripples through our organizational culture?

Let’s look at this in more depth from the perspective of neuroscience. Our brain is divided into 4 quadrants within the right and left hemispheres. For the purposes of this post, we’ll focus on the upper right and left quadrants.  The right brain is where we open up our thinking to what is possible and to the opportunities around us; Inspiration. The left brain organizes our thinking giving us the focus to implement the tasks necessary to reach our goals; Accountability.  Integration of these 2 hemispheres is what I like to call the sweet spot in neuroscience.  This is the zone often referred to as FLOW; when we are intentional to creating and living our masterpiece from a higher source of inspiration and accountability combined.Outstanding

John Miller’s “Outstanding; 47 Ways to Make Your Organization Exceptional” is a book that comes to mind as a group read when creating the inspirational conditions referenced above. “You will never live life beyond your wildest expectations until you first have some wild expectations.”

Stay tuned for The 4 Levels of Human Development – Part 3, “Create Yourself” where we’ll explore Accountability in more detail.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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4 Levels of Human Development – Part 1

A Lifestyle-Leadership blog….

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Leadership Effectiveness begins with you! Assessing self and consciously choosing who you want to be in your business and personal relationships is foundational to personal mastery.  Great Leaders challenge themselves regularly, taking their own temperature on self awareness.  They listen, look in the mirror, get curious and course correct when needed.

Inspire yourself and be the inspiration and mirror for others around you to rise up and be their best selves every day.

In this first of four posts on the 4 Levels of Human Development, I’d like to highlight the 4 levels up front that we’ll be exploring together.

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Let’s get started!

Level 1 – Know Yourself:

Knowing self and the connection to human spirit.  Our lifelong journey of self-development can find us circling back and reflecting on who we are being at various times in our lives.  Are you looking to be inspired or to inspire others?  Check in with yourself and be the change you want to see in the world.  As you learn, grow and change, some questions you might find yourself asking at this level might be…

  • Who am I?
  • What is my current reality?
  • What do I want?
  • Is there something missing?

A colleague recently asked me what the most influential book was that I read in 2012.  Being an avid reader I hesitated to quickly give an answer, as I wanted to give all books read a moment of reflection.  Such a simple question got me to thinking about WHY I’m choosing what I’m choosing.  After all, the most influential book over an entire year – I’d better have a compelling reason for my choice, right?  Well, as it happens, I do.

Gifts of Imperfection book coverTaking a true assessment of self and challenging self-limiting beliefs head on is not easy!  Every transformation begins with know yourself.   “Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown is a jewel in this arena.  Brene speaks to the heart of accepting ourselves for all of our perceived flaws as well as our places of greatness with a writing style that welcomes the reader to a journey of awareness, acceptance and self-love.

In this world acclaimed TedX video, Brene speaks to one of the most precious gifts to come from her research on Shame: Vulnerability.

The hierarchy of human development gives us a clear path to set intentions and mindfully explore what is needed here now.  While allowing yourself to be vulnerable as you stretch and strengthen your uncertainty muscle, the path for transformation begins.  Sometimes we just “let go” of what is not working in our lives and other times “letting it be” resonates.  Either way, getting out of a stuck place often begins with looking in the mirror of self-awareness and “Gifts of Imperfection” has proven time and again to be a wholehearted and resonant mirror for this exploration.

Stay tuned for The 4 Levels of Human Development – Part 2 where we’ll explore “Choose Yourself” in more detail.  In the meantime if you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you. I would love to hear from you!

What is needed here now?

Gisele
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Aligning….
Purpose – Perseverance – Passion

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