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Finding Your Tribe

A Lifestyle Leadership blog…


Living the lifestyle of an Expat is not for everyone. If I had to choose just 1 thing that I learned thus far on the journey it would be the importance of finding your Tribe.

Of course, this holds true in life, wherever we are, however, it became a beacon after uprooting ourselves from everyone and everything we knew from Canada. I remember a time about 10 years ago when a group of us were sitting around a friend’s dining room table in Vancouver getting to know one another and one of us mused aloud how nice this was. Our conversation quickly became about friendships and what brought us all together. Curiously, although perhaps not so much, we were all looking to make some like-minded friends in the boating community. A Tribe was born and over the years, some new folks joined us, some of us moved away and some just moved on.

Abraham Maslow’s pyramid, pictured below, recognizes love/belonging at the center of one’s hierarchy of human needs. Finding our Tribes, both in the workplace and in our personal lives brings a sense of connection with one’s life.
The Gallup engagement survey poses the statement “I have a best friend at work”. It’s a short survey, only 12 statements. A testament to the meaning of feeling connected, cared about, and in turn caring about someone in the workplace. It’s about being vulnerable and trusting that there is someone watching out for you, someone you can lean on and vice versa. When we have these connections in our work environments, we will tend to be more confident, take more risks and be more engaged. Imagine a whole team functioning at this level? Tribes in the workplace will provide the foundation for creativity and innovation and best of all will collaborate at a higher frequency forging new futures together.

  • Do you have a close friend at work that you trust?
  • Is your team a tribe or a group of co-workers?
  • Are you nurturing the relationships in your personal tribes?

Enjoying a cup of tea with a friend in the afternoon or meeting up with friends for some lively conversation and laughter. It’s not a matter of will we gather, but when and where. Our tribes will take on many variations over our lifetimes and one thing is for sure – we are better people when we have connection and belonging in our lives, both in our work and at home.

Carolyn Myss states it quite simply,
“We evolve at the rate of the tribe we’re plugged into”. 

If you’d like to connect for a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership development plan and relationship that is unique for you and/or your team. I would love to hear from you!

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Designing your “what’s next” magical experience in 2013….

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored

Happy New Year Everyone!

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau

I just love this quote!!!

Two years ago at this time, Mike and I were in the midst of making a life altering decision. Do we stay in Vancouver, B.C. and continue to live the life we have known or do we liquidate and uproot ourselves embracing a whole new culture and lifestyle that we know nothing about? We chose the latter and are embracing the incredible tropical paradise of Bermuda, as home. We learned very quickly that it’s not all sunshine, clear aqua water and palm trees. Life happens with or without those little umbrellas in our drinks. 😉

I’ve come to believe that everything in life has its compromises. Along with the obvious benefits of living and working in the tropics, our new lifestyle has posed a certain amount of discomfort and adversity for both of us to traverse individually and together. Noticing that it’s often in these darker places when we find ourselves sourcing courage and taking risks, challenging self limiting beliefs, failing, being resilient, succeeding and resetting our paths to name a few of the mini journeys.  The Integration Process is re-visited regularly and checking in with Perspectives continue to be a gift.

A new year is upon us presenting an opportunity for a fresh start. Hopes and dreams, goals and objectives, expectations and accountabilities; call it what you want, for me, it presents an endless kaleidoscope of possibilities to create and design a resonant life in full color. Nigel Marsh’s TEDx video “How to make work life balance work” is a great place for getting curious and maybe a bit uncomfortable while setting some intentions for your next magical experience. Check it out here:

“If you don’t design your life, someone else will do it for you.” — Nigel Marsh

December has been an introspective month for many of the clients and coachees I’m aligned with. As we reflected on experiences from the past year, we held a space for exploration. Owning ones journey and lessons learned speaks to being a leader in ones life; it’s where humility lives and in turn raises your level of consciousness as a leader.  Use this energy and time of year as your personal launchpad to design your magical experience of “what’s next.”

Great Leaders Grow Designing your life sound a bit overwhelming? Perhaps starting with the 3 questions posed by Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller in their book “Great Leaders GROW; Becoming a Leader for Life” may resonate:
         –  What will you keep doing?
         –  What will you stop doing?
         –  What will you start doing?

My greatest wish is that we all consciously choose to set the boundaries by which we view success and design and create our personal visions of what a life well lived looks like.

For a more in depth conversation, give me a call or email me and we can talk about designing a lifestyle and leadership coaching relationship that is unique for you. I would love to hear from you.


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Transformation & The Space In Between…

Living in the Tropics; life and leadership lessons explored…

“You have to reject one expression of [the band] first, before you get to the next expression. In between you have nothing, you have to risk it all”    — Bono

Insert ‘your life’ or ‘your company’ for [the band] and it just brings goosebumps doesn’t it? This was such a powerful quote that esteemed filmmaker Davis Guggenheim positioned it twice in the U2 documentary “From the Sky Down.”

Relocating from Vancouver to Bermuda, I found myself in the space between in my search for a clearer picture of this new reality reflective of lifestyle choices. The gift was in slowing down and being present to heart, mind and body intelligence. However painful it felt and was for me; this traversing from one version of self to another, integrating change from the places of humility, gratitude, forgiveness, intuition, creativity and above all else, LOVE — a new map of life became clearer with each new day.

A favorite book that comes to mind is “hope for the flowers” by Trina Paulus. It is a story of hope and the integration process, within the space in between, as Stripe and Yellow journey from being caterpillars to butterflies.

The Integration process is about redrawing your map of life and filling the empty space with new meaning. With all things in life being impermanent, this process requires the need for you to rebuild confidence and develop acceptance and resilience. The secret of resilience is the ability to see a crisis, or space in between as an opportunity for a new beginning. Remember, a new beginning can only happen when the old form disintegrates.

Some questions you may ask when you find yourself exploring the space in between:

  • What have I learned?
  • How will I fill the space with meaning?
  • Who am I being?

Sometimes it’s not about letting go, it’s about letting it be. We can’t force the events in our lives; all we can do is be present to the flow. Even in the darkest hours of life—if we are truly present—joy shines in the depths…

May joy follow and surround you everywhere.


Purpose – Perseverance – Passion